So Who’s To Blame? December 26, 2009
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So here we go again. Same story different day. The driver got sleepy, hit a divider and the rest is another tragic story. While families of the victims mourn the loss of their loved ones, the government and the bus company will probably play the blame game, pointing fingers each other while refusing responsibility. Then finally, I think the driver will take the fall, the matter swept under the carpet and hushed under a whisper. Until another freak accident.
But is the driver really to blame? Sure he admitted he dozed off briefly while driving, but who hasn’t? I believe most drivers, if not all have experienced nodding off while driving whether it be due to tiredness or just plain sleepy. We were just lucky to get away with it. He was not.
But speeding while sleepy is another thing. The police statement suspected that the extent of the damage was due to the speed at which the bus was traveling. I tend to agree but I don’t know for sure. But it’s hardly a secret that express bus drivers are reckless and has acute speed obsession. Speeding alone is dangerous because if anything happens, we won’t time to react.
Is the bus company also responsible because they hired drivers with bad track records again and again? Shouldn’t they be punished? And shouldn’t the government also be punished because the laws about speeding are not implemented and executed strictly? If so who is the one to blame?
Fines are no longer enough to scare people in not committing a traffic offense. An RM300 fine is always ‘negotiable’, you go to the police station and you might get a discount. Or if the police is a kind person you might just need to fork out RM 50 and you can walk away clean. And if you’re rich, you’ll just pay the money and won’t care. So what’s the suitable punishment?
Just When I Forgot… July 6, 2009
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She suddenly pops up in my Facebook.
My ex. My first love.
An old friend of ours suggested I add her as a friend.
It’s been 8 years. Bittersweet memories instantly flashes through my mind.
We had a lot of good times together. She was a good friend. She taught me a lot about love and life. The day we broke up, I felt the world had crashed upon me.
But that was the past. I’ve moved on. So did she.
I’ve found a greater love, the love Allah intended me to find. I pray she had found hers too. I’m grateful for everything that she’s done for me, but being friends is no longer an option.
I pointed my mouse to ‘Ignore’.
And clicked.
How Fast Can You Type? July 1, 2009
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Kamu mencapai 253 markah, jadi kamu berada di posisi 299 dari 2939 dalam senarai kedudukan
Kamu menaip 308 aksara seminit
Kamu mendapat 50 perkataan betul
dan 0 perkataan salah
Unrequited Love June 22, 2009
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People tend to overcomplicate things when it comes to the person they love or admire.
My friend had been in love with this girl for a couple of years already. But being his friend, I could sense that the feeling wasn’t mutual. The girl kept diverting and giving excuses when my friend professed his love for her. My friend went to the extent of taking out his savings to settle her debts, which accumulated to a few thousand ringgits just to prove he was serious. But she was unfazed.
It’s good having a never-give-up attitude in life. But there comes a time when you have to look at the situation, say enough is enough, and move on. If she doesn’t appreciate you after all this while, what’s the point of staying around? Bunga bukan sekuntum kan?….
This is what I told him and he agreed. He said he’s going to stop contacting her. But I’m not so sure.
Shakespeare once said, “If you love someone, you’ve got to let her go. If she comes back, she’s yours forever. If not, she never was.
The hardest part is to let go.
From Terengganu With Love June 16, 2009
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I came back from the SUKUM34 tournament in Terengganu already. Both UTeM’s ladies and mens volleyball team didn’t make it past the group stages. But at least the mens won a match, which puts us third in our group. We put on the best performance we could, despite being the only team without a formal coach and a limited number of available players, especially for the men. While other teams were comfortable with 11 or 12 players, my team had to be content with 8. And from that 8, only 7 can actually play. So we had only one substitution available (A playing team consists of six players). During our last match, almost everyone was sweating up to their knees. A key player had a swollen thigh, but he fought through the pain till the very end.
Which is why I love my team.
We were a team with no stars, and we are undermined and down casted by friends and foe alike. But we played as a team. We had fun. We enjoyed ourselves. We valued each other. I hope this is the beginning of a good team in the future.
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UNIMAP won the overall tournament. Congratulations to them. Even so, there are strong rumours that say they employ state and national athletes as contract workers 3 months prior to the games so that they could represent them in SUKUM. This on its own does not violate the rule, since contract workers who worked for at least 3 months are allowed to represent the university. But, if it’s true, may as well violate the spirit of the game all the same. I mean what’s the point of having University Staff’s Sports Tournament if the athletes are not ‘real’ staff to begin with? Then again, it’s just rumours…
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Food at stalls and restaurants in Kuala Terengganu are expensive. Even local people admit it. You might feel justified if it tastes good, which is true at some places. But what if the food sucks? I ate a Nasi Ayam Hainan which is more of like Nasi Ayam Kuah Air Paip, which costs me RM3.80. The soup is like tap water sprinkled with some herbs and cooked onions. The chicken is like one miniscule piece, cut into two. It feels tempting to actually throw the plate at the waiter in disgust, but being the ‘polite’ Malay, I decided against it. I just paid, ate and vowed never to set foot into that restaurant ever again.
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I am told by a friend who live here that if you want to buy keropok lekor here to not go to Losong anymore. They have commercialized the product so much so that the taste and quality weren’t what it used to . Instead, I was advised to go to Seberang Takir and find local shops there which still stuck to the traditional method of making it. There you’ll find the original sumptuous taste of the chip.
Kite Tengok Penyu Bertelor, Penyu Tengok….. June 2, 2009
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I will be off to Terengganu tonight. Will be there for 10 days participating in SUKUM 34. If you’re reading this, wish me luck. My team is not the favourite. On paper, we are lucky even if we were to qualify to the second round. But I’m going determined to prove something.
Alahai Akhil Hayy May 27, 2009
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Wanita Hari Ini 26 Mei 2009
Actually, whether Akhil Hayy is in love with Waheeda ‘Wassini’ is none of my business.
But what I am concerned about is the fact that Akhil is supposed to be the role-model of Islam in Malaysia. No doubt he has done a lot but people will point out the mistakes rather than the achievements.
If he has no relationship with Waheeda, then he should stay away from her, at least in public. Words and actions must come together for it to be believed. He says he has nothing to do with her, yet he mysteriously takes her as his ‘wife’ in his TV show. And he chose her after this gossip surfaced. Why? Before this, his show was already doing well without her. Plus, there are a lot more options of ‘pious woman’ for him to choose from. Why her, of all people?
If he actually has, then be a man. Confess, and accept your responsibilities, now that everything is out in the open. Polygamy in Islam is a beautiful thing. It keeps a woman’s dignity and honour intact, by relationship through a legal marriage. If you have married her, or going to, I wish you happiness. But don’t neglect your responsibility to your first wife and kids. You won’t be at the top forever. She (your first) married you (I’m assuming) before you were famous. One day you will fall, and when that day comes, chances are, the ones who will help you get up again will be the ones who were with you when you were still a nobody.
Titik Waktu Di Hadapan May 11, 2009
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Bila kita ditimpa musibah, kita sering mengeluh “Kenapa ini berlaku padaku?”
Kita ini manusia yang lemah, yang hidup kita sebenarnya adalah hasil titik-titik waktu yang bersambung-sambung membentuk garisan kehidupan kita. Dan kita hanya mampu menoleh ke belakang dan melihat titik-titik yang telah bersambung itu dan ke mana ia telah membawa kita. Kita tidak mampu melihat titik-titik yang di hadapan.
Kerana ketidakmampuan ini, maka kita sering gagal menanggapi perihal hikmah. Peristiwa yang baik diterima dengan senang hati, tetapi yang buruk dianggap suatu tragedi.
Bila kita ditimpa musibah, kita mungkin marah, benci, sedih, terseksa. Kita fikir Allah tidak sayangkan kita.
Tapi hidup ini bukanlah semata-mata apa yang kita lihat, kawan.
Humiliated February 24, 2009
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What do you do if someone humiliates you in front of others?
Recently, somebody said something tremendously offending to me. And at the spur of the moment, I went blank. I didn’t know how to respond or what to say. I wish I had the wits and wisdom to shoot something back, but I couldn’t. And what he said kept lingering in my head for days.
I hate it when this happens.
ESQ 165 January 27, 2009
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Andai ditanya apakah rasanya gula, maka dengan mudah anda akan menjawab rasanya manis. Tapi bayangkan jika anda disuruh menerangkan bagaimana rasa manisnya gula pada orang yang tak pernah merasanya, maka apa yang harus anda katakan? Cara apa mahu anda ungkapkan, agar dia memahami sesungguhnya apa yang anda maksudkan?
Andai ditanya apakah rasanya jatuh cinta, maka jika kita pernah atau sedang mengalaminya, kita akan berkata ianya indah. Membahagiakan. Namun, bagaimana jika kita belum mengalaminya? Dahulu, aku ada seorang kawan karib, yang menemui cinta pertamanya sebelum aku. Lalu, saban hari, setiap kali bertemu, dia akan menceritakan kisah-kisah indah yang dilaluinya bersama sang kekasih, mengulangkan cerita yang sama berkali-kali seakan aku ini pesakit amnesia. Bosan. Namun, perasaannya hanya aku fahami setelah aku sendiri jatuh cinta.
Demikianlah. Segenap perasaan yang paling indah jarang dapat digambarkan melalui kata-kata. Perkataan hanyalah sekadar ekspresi. Bagaikan fizikal tanpa rohani. Bagaikan jasad tanpa jiwa.
Begitulah jawapan aku apabila diminta menghuraikan berkenaan kursus ESQ yang aku hadiri lewat Disember lalu anjuran pihak pengurusanku. Faedah dan nikmatnya tak mampu aku nukilkan dengan kata-kata untuk difahami oleh mereka yang tidak pernah mengikutinya. Sudah berpuluh latihan pembangunan diri yang aku sertai, namun tak ada yang setanding impaknya berbanding ESQ.
Semuanya kerana ia adalah latihan pengurusan dan kepimpinan berdasarkan konsep experiential learning. Tak ada sebarang nota ditulis, tapi inti pelajarannya ditanamkan dalam-dalam di dalam jiwa. Kerana suatu ilmu itu jika sekadar disimpan di minda akan dilupai. Tapi suatu pengalaman hebat yang membekas di hati, akan kita ingat sehingga kita mati.
Kursus ini telah membantu aku mencari jawapan untuk satu persoalan yang sudah sekian lama berlegar di fikiranku tanpa mampu aku jawab, iaitu “Untuk apa aku hidup?” Meskipun jujur, aku belum menemukan jawapan yang pasti, sekurang-kurangnya aku tahu jalan apa yang mesti aku tempuh untuk mendapatkannya.
Maka, jika ada satu kursus yang aku boleh cadangkan kepada semua orang kerana manfaatnya mencakupi segenap bidang kehidupan, rumahtangga, pekerjaan hinggalah kita bertemu dengan Maha Pencipta, inilah kursusnya.
